Due to the fact that women look for real men to couple up with, they need a way to filter the losers who are trying their luck with them so only the best men pass.
How can they filter all those guys, then?
Well, they TEST them to see how they react to all kinds of situations.
A real man needs to be in control of everything in order to pass these tests, including control over his emotions and the situation. (“In control” doesn’t mean “controlling”!)
Someone who isn’t strong and confident enough would probably fail these tests and be filtered.
One way a woman tests a man is actually on purpose. She would literally do or say something to see how he would react by flirting with some other guy, for example. (A real confident man won’t get threatened by this because he knows that she wants him, but if she wants to leave him, that’s ok… he has plenty of other options. A real man knows and believes that HE IS the prize.)
If this scenario happens to you, don’t panic. Let her talk to him and go flirt with another woman… You can also approach them, act cool and not show any sign of insecurity. Ask the guy for his name, what does he do, what does he think about your woman? Isn’t she hot? Then say, “well I’ll leave you two alone to whatever you were talking about…” This will mess with her mind a little…
A second kind of test is unconscious: She will do or say something (not on purpose) that is controlling or disrespectful towards you. (You think all girls are angels?) If you fail this test (act like a wuss and give her what she wants) she will lose some attraction towards you, if not all of it; and it can happen instantly.
For example, she’ll call you to cancel a date with a bad excuse one hour before you were supposed to pick her up. On the one hand you can say: “Well, ok, no problem. If your cat really needs to be washed right now then I understand. You’re so pretty…”
And on the other hand you can be a MAN and put her in her place. Ask her why the f*#k is she bullshitting you? Tell her that you won’t tolerate this kind of disrespectful behavior from people, and if she wants to be a part of your life she’s going to have to respect you and your time, otherwise she’ll get none of your time and none of your respect. Then say, “now, let the cat lick itself clean and get ready to be picked up and have some good time. And don’t forget to think of a good idea for making up to me for this unacceptable behavior, ok, sweetie?” (And don’t even think about apologizing for being an asshole on the phone!)
If you say it like a man and mean it (don’t yell at her and NEVER lose your temper, on the contrary – be forgiving and mature), an attraction switch WILL turn inside her head: Suddenly she’ll think differently about you and WILL probably say, “Ok, I’ll see you in an hour.”
(Hey, what have you got to lose? The girl obviously wasn’t attracted to you enough and probably planned on not calling you again, UNLESS you showed her that YOU WERE THE MAN.)
This example was a little harsh, but only to make you understand the differences between what a wussbag would say to what a real man would say.
The third kind of test is the kind that will make you terminate your chances of success because of your own behavior. For example: Calling her too much and acting needy, attempting to buy her affection by trying to impress her with your money and paying for expensive dates, confessing your feelings too early in the relationship and so on.
A woman will occasionally try to push your buttons in order to make sure that YOU ARE the right man for the “husband and father” job.
Most of the tests are unconscious and you need to know how to react in all those kinds of situations.
The general rule here is that you have to be a confident, relaxed, and self-respecting man who’s in control at all time. Remember that!
The bitch shield:
This is a different kind of test that assesses your persistence and attitude.
A real man won’t give up easily. When he approaches a beautiful woman, for example, and she pulls the “bitch shield” out at him, he will not give up so easily but will try to disarm it in order to pass the unpleasant persona stage and get to the real her: The nice her. (You don’t really believe that women with bitch shields are bitches all the time to everyone, do you?)
Beautiful women need to have bitch shields because they can’t have BORING conversations with anyone who starts talking to them 10 times a day every day. This is time consuming and extremely ineffective to them, not to mention exhausting.
Can you imagine 10 unattractive women from all ages and nationalities asking you each and every day: “What’s your name?” “What do you do?” where do you live?” etc, while you have to be polite, smile and answer every question, every day for years, knowing what they all want from you, as they act so pathetically predictable…
That’s right, it’s terrible!
That’s why a woman will ignore you when you approach her or she may say, “I have a boyfriend” or “piss off” (really!) or something unpleasant like this in order to push you away. But if you’re persistent, you don’t give up easily, tease her, make her laugh, and then, after the bitch shield is off, you get her into an interesting conversation and you challenge her while at the same time you show great BODY LANGUAGE, CONTROL and CONFIDENCE, you will have a good chance of doing her… ;-)
The last kind of test I want to introduce to you, is the sex test.
The fact that you’ve gotten a girl to like you and have sex with you doesn’t mean you’ve passed all the tests.
The way you make love to a woman is a test on its own, and it’s a REALLY big one.
If your first kiss sucked and you don’t know how to touch and pleasure a woman, or you may be selfish in bed, or more importantly: you can’t connect with her emotionally and spiritually in intimate situations, then there might not be any next time for you two to be together.
THIS will make sure you’ll “score” this test, so to speak… ;-)
Read what Derek Vitalio wrote in this page and you’ll TOTALLY understand what I’m talking about. This stuff is beyond anything you’ve ever known existed!
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